Everything About Bengali Wedding Ritual You Need to Know

So India has been known as a land of rich cultural heritage. And weddings here are even more grand. And each region has something or the other disting about them. And Bengal being one of the very core regions of India, we can indeed find some meaningful and grand Bengali wedding rituals, that not only keep the entire wedding saga an engaging and entertaining event, but also tells a tackle of Bengal’s history at each step.

Today, we barely think deeply about the meaning behind each Bengali marriage ritual. But won’t it be fascinating to know them in a little detail?

Important Bengali Wedding Rituals, One Needs To Know.

  • Adan Prodan - To Save The Dates.
  • Ashirbad - Engagement's Version Of Bengali Wedding Rituals.
  • Aiburobhat - The Last Meal As Bachelors.
  • Sankha Pola - Adorning The Bride’s Hands.
  • Ganga Nimantran - Bengali Wedding Rituals Evoking The Holy Ganges.
  • Dodhi Mangal- Beginning Of Fast.
  • Nandi Mukh - Ode To The Forefathers.
  • Gaye Holud Or Gatro Haridra -  Bengali Wedding Rituals Of Turmeric Paste.
  • Tatwa - The Shower Of Gifts And Love!
  • Bor Jaatra And Boron -  Bengali Wedding Rituals Of Greeting The Groom!
  • Patta Bastra - Gearing The Groom Up.
  • Subho Dristi - When The Eyes Meet Finally!
  • Mala Bodol -  Bengali Wedding Rituals Of Greeting Each Other.
  • Sampradan- A Very Emotional Bengali Wedding Rituals.
  • Houm Joggo - Lighting The Holy Fire!
  • Saptapadi - The Seven Vows Of Marriage.
  • Anjali - Worshipping The Fire.
  • Sindoor Daan - Sacred Bengali Wedding Rituals.
  • Basor Raat - The Wedding Night.
  • Bashi Biye - The Morning Next To The Wedding Night.
  • Biday - Bengali Wedding Rituals Of Bidding Farewell.
  • Bodhu Baran - Welcoming The Bride To Her New Home.
  • Bhaat Kapor - Post Wedding Bengali Wedding Rituals.
  • Bou Bhaat - Bride’s First Rice In Her New Home.
  • Ful Sajya -  The Union Night!
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1. Adan Prodan - To Save The Dates.

The official declaration of the wedding. This is when the groom’s parents visit the bride’s house and finalise the wedding date with the bride's parents, in the presence of the priest.

2. Ashirbad - Engagement's Version Of Bengali Wedding Rituals.

The Bengali bride and groom is blessed by both of their families and is basically the bong version of an engagement.

3. Aiburobhat - The Last Meal As Bachelors.

Aiburobhat
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This is basically the last meal of the Bengali bride groom they have as unmarried people. The word ‘aaiburo’ means bachelor, and ‘Bhaat’ means meal.

4. Sankha Pola - Adorning The Bride’s Hands.

Sankha and pola are the very important two traditional bengali bridal jewellery, that are also sacred bangles worn as a part of Bengali wedding dress for bride. They are made out of conch shells and red coral. This is usually worn by the Bengali bride for the rest of her life.

5. Ganga Nimantran - Bengali Wedding Rituals Evoking The Holy Ganges.

This is the wedding rituals that signifies invoking Devi Ganga, the queen of Rivers in Indian Folklore. Ganga is deemed to be the purifier of the surroundings, body and soul.

6. Dodhi Mangal- Beginning Of Fast.

The bride and Groom is supposed to fast from sunrise until the marriage ceremony is completed. So they are fed a mixture of Misti doi, khoi and Chire before sunrise. 

7. Nandi Mukh - Ode To The Forefathers.

This is one of those parts of a Bengali wedding where the bride and groom invokes either of their forefathers and seeks their blessings.

8. Gaye Holud Or Gatro Haridra -  Bengali Wedding Rituals Of Turmeric Paste.

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This is basically the Bengali haldi ceremony where the paste of mustard oil, fuller earth and turmeric is applied on the hands and face of the bride and groom at their respective homes.

9. Tatwa - The Shower Of Gifts And Love!

Some relatives of the groom bring the paste of haldi, and lots of gifts which include a Bengali wedding saree for the bride that she is supposed to wear at her reception.

10. Bor Jaatra And Boron -  Bengali Wedding Rituals Of Greeting The Groom!

The baraat or Bor jatri is the ritual where the Bor, all decked up in his Bengali groom dress for wedding heads for the bride’s home, and is greeted by her mother and other family members.

11. Patta Bastra - Gearing The Groom Up.

The groom is given a fresh and clean new change of clothes by the bride’s father, that he is supposed to wear for the marriage rituals. 

12. Subho Dristi - When The Eyes Meet Finally!

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The bride sits on a wooden seat and is carried by her brothers to the mandap, as she covers her face with a pair of betel leaves. She removes them in front of the groom and this is when they see each other as bride and groom for the first time.

13. Mala Bodol -  Bengali Wedding Rituals Of Greeting Each Other.

The bride and groom embrace each other and exchange beautiful flower garlands in these Bengali wedding rituals. 

14. Sampradan- A Very Emotional Bengali Wedding Rituals.

An indeed sentimental ritual when the bride’s father gives her hand on the groom’s hand, and this signifies the girl leaving behind her father’s gotra and moving on into her husband’s gotra.

15. Houm Joggo - Lighting The Holy Fire!

The sacred fire of the marriage is worshipped with Ghee, and other offerings. This is significant in invoking the fire God to be a sacred witness of the holy union.

16. Saptapadi - The Seven Vows Of Marriage.

This signifies the seven rounds the couple takes around the sacred fire, taking the seven important vows of a healthy and successful marriage.

17. Anjali - Worshipping The Fire.

The bride’s brother hands her over the puffed rice offering and the groom holds her hand from behind. The fire god is offered the sacred Khoi.

18. Sindoor Daan - Sacred Bengali Wedding Rituals.

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The final step of the marriage ritual. The groom applies SIndoor, into the hair partition of the bride. The bride’s head is instantly covered by the lajja bastra.

19. Basor Raat - The Wedding Night.

The night of the wedding is spent by singing and merrying around in a hall where the peers of the bride and groom sit together.

20. Bashi Biye - The Morning Next To The Wedding Night.

This is a very subjective Bengali wedding ritual. The bride and groom are made to do many fun activities by the other members of the family. In many cases, the sindoor daan also happens in the Bashi biye.

21. Biday - Bengali Wedding Rituals Of Bidding Farewell.

Bidai
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The bride bids her final goodbyes to her father’s home, and heads towards her sasuraal.

22. Bodhuboron - Welcoming The Bride To Her New Home.

The bride is welcomed into her new home, by her in-laws, followed by the observing of Kaal ratri.

23. Bhaat Kapor - Post Wedding Bengali Wedding Rituals.

This is a day after the bodhuboron, when the groom takes a vow of taking care of his bride, for the rest of her life, and gifts her with sarees and jewellery, this is usually the reception saree for Bengali bride.

24. Bou Bhaat - Bride’s First Rice In Her New Home.

The Bride dresses up and takes her first meal in her in-law’s home.

25. Ful Sajya -  The Union Night!

After a long wedding saga, and a lot of Bengali wedding rituals, the couple gets to have their first night together!